Screw the Patriarchy 

And How Women have been Doing It for Millennia  Just to be quite clear up front, I’m definitely a feminist. I think it’s ridiculous that women earn 70 cents to a man’s dollar and that in spite of making up half the country’s population we comprise only 17% of Congress. Women’s behavior and clothing is…

Don’t Play Someone Else’s Game

My father likes to tell stories about a certain soccer coach who gave pithy pieces of advice often applicable to life as much as to the game.  One day the team was set to play against another school. The Brutes, as we will call them, were not really a soccer team; they usually played football…

The Absolute Worthlessness of Guilt 

Guilt: the most useless of human emotions.  In general, I’m a real fan of emotions. Like pain, emotions act as signals that something is wrong and needs to change. People without emotions (or those who are out of touch with their emotions) have a hard time making good, healthy decisions; again, similarly to people who…

You Are Too

“You’re amazing!” “You’re so strong!” “I really admire you.” You’d think I would like hearing those things. Compliments, and compliments that don’t involve body parts, are good things, right?  The truth is, I never quite know how to respond.  When people say I’m amazing, it feels like they are setting me in a different category….

There is No “One Size”

If you are a woman, you’ve probably had the massively frustrating experience of trying to purchase a garment and learning that it didn’t come in your size. In fact, it didn’t come in anyone’s size – it came in the elusive “One Size” of an imaginary human being shaped like an atrophied potato sack. And…